Black Lives Matter

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I do not support black lives matter. I am a black woman in America saying this. I remember when it all started. The tragic shooting of Trayvon Martin was what kick-started this movement. Black Lives Matter began as a hashtag on Twitter after the trial. Then, after the shooting of Michael Brown, it became more of a movement. Then an organization. There were marches and peaceful protests. There were also riots, looting, and cops being killed in the name of Black Lives Matter. I also do not believe that black people in America today are oppressed.

First of all, why has the definition of racism changed? FYI, anyone. ANYONE. Doesn’t matter what race you are, can be racist. Why does someone need “power” to be racist? Why is there this misconception that only white people can be racist? People have changed the definition of racism to fit whatever narrative or agenda they are trying to push.

Here is the dictionary definition of racism – a belief or doctrine that inherent differences among the racial groups determine cultural or individual achievement, usually involving the idea that one’s own race is superior and has the right to dominate others or that a particular racial group is inferior to others.

A Belief. It’s not about power. Racism is about beliefs. So yes, black people can be racist.

Now, there is the whole white cops shooting black men thing. Sure, there are definitely instances where a white cop shot a black man unjustly. There were instances of racism in some of these shootings most likely. However about half, probably more than half, were justified. In a lot of instances where these things happen the cop will pull over a man who maybe was speeding. The cop will be doing his job and then what happens is things are escalated by the man who was pulled over. That’s the sort of thing that happens and it doesn’t help that young black people are being told to fear the cops and that specifically white cops are out to get them. That’s simply not true. If that were true and the courts were just fine with it and there were no consequences then don’t you think that our numbers would dwindle significantly? I mean if it was truly acceptable for white cops to just shoot any black person that they see don’t you think our culture as a whole would change? Then on the news, you only hear one side of the story and this web of lies is spun by the media to make the cop look like he or she was wrong, especially if they’re white. You won’t know the full beginning to end. You wonder why some of these cops get off, that’s because the jury gets to see the situation as a whole and they know what happened from beginning to end.

How are black people in America oppressed? By law, we all have equal rights and opportunities. But there are obviously racial disparities, right? For example, the average white household is more wealthy than the average black household. There is a world of variables that need to be considered when talking about this one.

First of all, most black households today, are single-parent households. Just like our white counter-parts single parents with kids are going to have a hard time making ends meet with only one source of income. Most of these single-parent households are single mothers. Which means that they will most likely take more time off and not work in any of the STEM fields or in a job involving business with higher pay.

Plus, you have to look at black culture. I’m not saying that all black culture is bad. But, I am saying that there are aspects of it that promote ideas that are harmful to black youths. Like gang culture, why in the world is this something that is promoted in so many hip-hop and rap songs? Not all, but, a good majority. A lot of black culture does not give our youths the things that they need to be successful adults. A lot of them grow up in environments where all they see is gang stuff and violence and prostitution and drug use and so much of it is not condemned! It’s sad! So, the financial disparities that you see between black people and white people is not due to institutional racism, just like the feminists it has everything to do with choice. Look at our African counterparts, on average they do a lot better in the America, just in general. They immigrate here and they don’t get caught up in all the mess. So how can it be a skin color thing?

Now let’s talk about the riots. Not the uprisings, because that’s not what they were. They were black people looting, burning and destroying their own neighborhoods. Most of which were black-owned businesses. How are you making a positive difference by destroying your own stuff? That’s like a child throwing a tantrum in his room.

Black Lives Matter pick on white people and blame them for any misfortune that befalls them. It’s just really awful and sad to watch my brothers and sisters destroy themselves like this. If BLM truly cared about black lives then why aren’t they marching about all of the gang violence and shooting that goes on in majority black areas? Why haven’t they said anything about the fact that most of the crime in America is caused by black people even though we make up a fairly small percentage of the population? Why haven’t they done anything about the fact that we have the highest abortion rate in the country?

Another thing, why is BLM advocating for segregation? Black only spaces? Are you serious? Black Lives Matter is only trying to send us back to the 60’s. If MLK were alive today he would denounce Black Lives Matter in a heartbeat. They keep saying that they want equality when in reality all they do is try their best to separate black people and put us above white people. That is anything but, equality. It’s just like the feminists. They complain about inequality and don’t take into account all of the variables that led them to be in the situation that they are. Just like the feminists, they think of themselves as completely blameless in every situation.

Also, why do they keep bringing up slavery? Newsflash: YOU WERE NOT A SLAVE. The white people that you keep blaming for your unhappiness, THEY WERE NOT SLAVE OWNERS. If one of my ancestors was a serial killer then should I be jailed for his or her crimes? That doesn’t make a whole lot of sense does it? That is what Black Lives Matter sounds like when they talk about slavery.

Once again, I just want to say that I am a black woman. I hate discrimination and when there are instances of true racial discrimination you can bet that I will side with whoever was discriminated against whether they are black or white or Hispanic or whatever. I’m just tired of the lies and the hate. I know that a lot of people will probably disagree with me on a lot of things that I’ve said here on my blog. Feel free to comment or message me on my Twitter. Also, if you do I want you to know that calling me names with the caps lock on is not an argument. If you feel that you can school me better on this issue or on anything I’ve talked about on my blog absolutely feel free to comment or whatever.

Thank you for reading,

God Bless

 

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Feminism

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I am not a feminist. I am women who wants to enjoy being a women. I don’t want to be equal to a man either. Women in the west already have all of the same rights as men. Women were at first put on a pedestal; God’s most precious creation. But, feminism came along and ruined all of that. I honestly only see things getting worse from here on in. I’ll explain to you below why I feel such disdain about feminism.

Equality

Many feminists claim that feminism is all about equality. That women and men should be the same and have equal rights and whatnot. Here’s the thing though. We already do, especially here in the U.S.

Feminists will preach till the cows come home about equality however the movement is anything but. Feminists have done nothing for men and everything for women. Feminism has only tried to exclude men and put women above men in actuality. In Austin, Texas the Alamo Drafthouse theater decided to host a women-only showing of the new Wonder Woman movie that just came out, inequality. In 2015 in Colorado Springs some female cops felt that the physical fitness exam was not fair to women so they went to court and filed a federal lawsuit. Can you believe that they actually won? I can’t. Once again not equality. If men have to take this fitness test in order to pass and become a cop then women should also.

Feminists are hateful, not just towards men but also at other women. Mainly women who choose to be housewives. They want to fight for the right for women to make their own choices but when a woman chooses the traditional route suddenly she too is an enemy.

The Wage Gap

The wage gap is a myth. Since the Equal Pay Act of 1963 women and men have been paid equally for doing the same job. If it were legal to pay women less than men than you can bet your sweet pippy that a lot of companies would hire more women and reject men. If there is a reason that women in general make less than men it’s because of the different career choices that men and women make. Women are more likely to take time off to care for their children, women dominate lower paying careers like social work, and education. Men are willing to work longer hours and do more dangerous jobs; in fact men are more likely to die on the job than women. There is no gender wage gap.

Rape Culture

Rape culture is not a thing either. There is this incorrect statistic going around saying that 1 in 5 women in college are raped or sexually assaulted. The real statistic is more like 1 in 52 which is still a lot but, this confirms that you are actually safer at your college than when you aren’t. The study took responses from two big universities in the U.S. No one’s responses were verified and terms were not specified. Did you know that the authors of the survey said that using their survey to come to such a conclusion was inappropriate? Plus their is also the fact that in the U.S. rape has been found to be on a downward slope for a long time now and I can only see it continuing to get lower. I got this information from Prager University.

Rape is one of the worst things that can happen to a person, I would never stand by a rapist. A false accusation of rape is also a really terrible thing. This is something that I’ve seen increase quite a bit. Typically it’s feminists who are the ones making these false claims. When you falsely accuse a man of rape you are ruining his life. Most women are aware that the court will immediately side with the woman and feminists use this against men all the time. It’s cruel. Even if that man is innocent and he is accused of rape then he will most likely have an incredibly hard time finding a job, finding a lover, finding a friend. He’ll be hated by a lot of people, people he doesn’t even know. You would think that feminists would try and combat this unfair system since they’re supposedly all about equality, but they don’t. Also did you know that men are actually more likely to get raped when you include prison? Where are the feminists to help the men getting raped in prison?

Oppression

Women are not oppressed in America. I’ve seen claims that oppression is when a women is expected to behave or look a certain way in order to get a job or have a nice, successful date. If you show up to a job interview with your hair looking like  a rat’s nest and your clothes all disheveled then your chances of getting that job are slim. If you decide on a date to a nice restaurant that you will be as unpleasant as you like and show up in a T-shirt and jeans then your date is most definitely going to be turned off. You can’t walk around looking and behaving like Shrek and then expect Prince Charming to still come around.

The phrase “I don’t need a man” needs to disappear entirely. Yes. Yes, you do need a man. We all need men. You can’t use that phrase and adopt that mentality and then wonder why you can’t get a boyfriend. Woman was created after man. We are supposed to be partners. That mentality says that you think as a woman that you can have it all. For the most part it’s not possible. For some rich women yes, for most others no. You could have a kid and have a job and have a husband. Usually the kid gets neglected in these situations or God forbid-you have a “house-husband”. I’ll get into gender roles in another post. Typically these situations don’t end well for the child he or she will end up messed up in the head. Children need their mothers and it is incredibly difficult for a woman to give one hundred percent at work and then come home and give just as much to their child and husband. So most women don’t have a child until their in their late 30’s or forties and by then it’s either too late or it’s very dangerous to have a child. So they end up depressed because they chose their job over having children and/or getting married.

Sluts/Victim Blaming

Being a slut is not something to take pride in. No one (man or women) should take pride in sleeping with tons of people. It’s disgusting. When you sleep around you are sharing yourself with lots people. You cannot just give these intimate moments to any old Joe-schmo. The gift of sex is to be shared with the person you marry and no one else. Otherwise when you get married the special moment isn’t special. And you probably have an STD. Walking around scantily clad will not stop rape. Yes, I’m talking about the slut walk. Something that should not have ever happened. Walking around topless for everyone to see you is only going to tell people the message that you don’t value yourself and that you are the kind of person who thinks that that behavior is ok. It is not ok to be a slut.

I am certainly not one for victim blaming. If someone gets raped then it is the rapist who is at fault and no one else. At the same time the women who gets raped needs to understand that you should not go out half-dressed, drunk out of your mind and hang around a sleazy bar especially if you’re alone. That’s not victim blaming that’s called having common sense.

Women in Media

Feminists say that all sorts of media sexualize women. They aren’t wrong. A lot of media does sexualize women. This I think, has more to do with the fact that the media loves to sensationalize everything. Sex sells and that’s basic marketing. Also does the media not also sexualize men? Does the media not have huge, ripped shirtless guys everywhere? Isn’t feminism about equality? So shouldn’t feminists also be fighting against the sexualization of men in the media?

I’ll bring body image into this too; It keeps changing. Way back when, it was popular for women to be overweight, that meant that you could afford food, that you were so wealthy that you could afford an abundance of food. It was popular for women to be stick thin as well, like in the nineties. Here’s what I’ll say about this. Parents: You control what your child sees, you help to shape the way that your child thinks. If you don’t want your child to idolize what they see on TV then turn the channel or better yet turn the TV off. Instill some confidence and pride in your kid. These days Hollywood idolizes healthy bodies. Bony figures these days are seen as unhealthy. If you’re an adult you can’t allow the media to tell you what you should look like. You should just do your best to be healthy and adopt healthy practices. You have a mind of your own, remember that. Plus shouldn’t feminists also concern themselves about what men think of their bodies? Shouldn’t feminists be upset with Calvin Klein ads that feature buff, glistening handsome men?

Also I want to just add that as a child I didn’t care about the standards of beauty that I saw on the screen. That is the way that a child should think. I wasn’t concerned with how thin I was; I just wanted to play and have fun.

Ok, I think I’ve covered most of the main points. I don’t want equality; I want to be treated like a lady. When I’m on a date I expect the man to pay, I expect the man to hold the door open for me, I expect a man to speak gently to me; not in a patronizing way obviously. But I don’t want my boyfriend to speak to me the same way he does with his guy friends. Now I’m not saying I’m special. I’m not perfect, I’m not Elizabeth Taylor but, I’m a woman. I believe in the traditional, Biblical definition of what a godly woman should be. I’m not saying it’s not difficult, cause it is. We unfortunately were born into sin so yes we’ll struggle. As you grow in Christ things get better, they always do. I just really hate that feminism has taken such strides to take women off of the pedestal that we were originally placed upon. A woman’s purpose is to give birth and help the man unless God specifically has a special plan for you. That is my stance on feminism.

Thank you for reading,

God bless