People truly do disappointment me sometimes. When the Titanic struck the iceberg all those years ago I’ll bet that it looked something like this. When I watched the movie I thought it unbelievable how an iceberg, not that big, could sink an unsinkable ship. I, at the time, had no idea that this is what most icebergs actually look like. Small and almost harmless looking at the surface but, big and menacing at the bottom. This post is almost exactly what you think it is. The top represents looks and the bottom represents personality.
Here is what I’m not saying. I’m not saying that girls shouldn’t wear makeup. I’m not saying that people shouldn’t try to look their best, especially in public. I’m not saying that dresses are wrong nor am I saying that pretty people are wrong for well, being pretty. I’m not even saying that looks don’t matter at all, they do. If you choose to leave the house looking like a hobo every day then you can’t get upset when you don’t get invited to an upscale event. People probably have it in their heads that you can’t afford to dress nicely for the event and that you haven’t a care in the world how you look. Humans are visual creatures after all. It only makes sense. How do you determine whether or not to eat a rotten apple? The apple doesn’t look appealing, it looks nasty.
Here is what I am saying. Looks are not everything. I’ve had conversations about this with a lot of people. Many people said that personality is totally what’s most important. That is also the politically correct answer. Others struggled to give me an answer. Because they probably thought that looks mattered more. All I could think was, how can you be so shallow? Is this really all you look for in a partner (other than wealth)? If your partner were to be in an accident and they were disfigured would you divorce them if they no longer looked the way they used to? Is this really who you are? I was horrified. Now I’ll admit in the past I used to think this way. That beauty could cover any other flaws that I had. That is something that I’m glad I grew out of.
I love this quote by Roald Dahl. I have experienced this to be true in real life. I’ve had friends who were not considered conventionally beautiful but, as I got to know them for who they are, they became beautiful to me and probably maybe vice versa.
With all this being said I believe in the age old saying “beauty is in the eye of the beholder”. For example a lot of people find Jennifer Aniston really pretty…I do not. The saying also suggests that not everyone is pretty, at least not universally. I know some of you reading this post are probably thinking wow she must be ugly, that’s why she’s saying all this. To make herself feel better. And regardless of what I say now this is probably a thought that will stick in your head as you read this. But, honestly, I don’t think that I’m ugly. My face anyway. I’ve been complimented on my looks plenty. But, gosh. Sometimes it just grinds my gears to know that some people out there truly only base things on looks. They don’t bother to even attempt to see past a persons’ face. We are more than our looks. I would never marry a beautiful man with an amazing body who was an alcoholic and is rude to those who work under him. I would never be friends with someone like that.
Anyway, I just wanted to get my thoughts out about things like this. It just really bothers me. You may or may not disagree with me *shrug*.
Thank you for reading,