I am not a feminist. I am women who wants to enjoy being a women. I don’t want to be equal to a man either. Women in the west already have all of the same rights as men. Women were at first put on a pedestal; God’s most precious creation. But, feminism came along and ruined all of that. I honestly only see things getting worse from here on in. I’ll explain to you below why I feel such disdain about feminism.
Many feminists claim that feminism is all about equality. That women and men should be the same and have equal rights and whatnot. Here’s the thing though. We already do, especially here in the U.S.
Feminists will preach till the cows come home about equality however the movement is anything but. Feminists have done nothing for men and everything for women. Feminism has only tried to exclude men and put women above men in actuality. In Austin, Texas the Alamo Drafthouse theater decided to host a women-only showing of the new Wonder Woman movie that just came out, inequality. In 2015 in Colorado Springs some female cops felt that the physical fitness exam was not fair to women so they went to court and filed a federal lawsuit. Can you believe that they actually won? I can’t. Once again not equality. If men have to take this fitness test in order to pass and become a cop then women should also.
Feminists are hateful, not just towards men but also at other women. Mainly women who choose to be housewives. They want to fight for the right for women to make their own choices but when a woman chooses the traditional route suddenly she too is an enemy.
The Wage Gap
The wage gap is a myth. Since the Equal Pay Act of 1963 women and men have been paid equally for doing the same job. If it were legal to pay women less than men than you can bet your sweet pippy that a lot of companies would hire more women and reject men. If there is a reason that women in general make less than men it’s because of the different career choices that men and women make. Women are more likely to take time off to care for their children, women dominate lower paying careers like social work, and education. Men are willing to work longer hours and do more dangerous jobs; in fact men are more likely to die on the job than women. There is no gender wage gap.
Rape culture is not a thing either. There is this incorrect statistic going around saying that 1 in 5 women in college are raped or sexually assaulted. The real statistic is more like 1 in 52 which is still a lot but, this confirms that you are actually safer at your college than when you aren’t. The study took responses from two big universities in the U.S. No one’s responses were verified and terms were not specified. Did you know that the authors of the survey said that using their survey to come to such a conclusion was inappropriate? Plus their is also the fact that in the U.S. rape has been found to be on a downward slope for a long time now and I can only see it continuing to get lower. I got this information from Prager University.
Rape is one of the worst things that can happen to a person, I would never stand by a rapist. A false accusation of rape is also a really terrible thing. This is something that I’ve seen increase quite a bit. Typically it’s feminists who are the ones making these false claims. When you falsely accuse a man of rape you are ruining his life. Most women are aware that the court will immediately side with the woman and feminists use this against men all the time. It’s cruel. Even if that man is innocent and he is accused of rape then he will most likely have an incredibly hard time finding a job, finding a lover, finding a friend. He’ll be hated by a lot of people, people he doesn’t even know. You would think that feminists would try and combat this unfair system since they’re supposedly all about equality, but they don’t. Also did you know that men are actually more likely to get raped when you include prison? Where are the feminists to help the men getting raped in prison?
Women are not oppressed in America. I’ve seen claims that oppression is when a women is expected to behave or look a certain way in order to get a job or have a nice, successful date. If you show up to a job interview with your hair looking like a rat’s nest and your clothes all disheveled then your chances of getting that job are slim. If you decide on a date to a nice restaurant that you will be as unpleasant as you like and show up in a T-shirt and jeans then your date is most definitely going to be turned off. You can’t walk around looking and behaving like Shrek and then expect Prince Charming to still come around.
The phrase “I don’t need a man” needs to disappear entirely. Yes. Yes, you do need a man. We all need men. You can’t use that phrase and adopt that mentality and then wonder why you can’t get a boyfriend. Woman was created after man. We are supposed to be partners. That mentality says that you think as a woman that you can have it all. For the most part it’s not possible. For some rich women yes, for most others no. You could have a kid and have a job and have a husband. Usually the kid gets neglected in these situations or God forbid-you have a “house-husband”. I’ll get into gender roles in another post. Typically these situations don’t end well for the child he or she will end up messed up in the head. Children need their mothers and it is incredibly difficult for a woman to give one hundred percent at work and then come home and give just as much to their child and husband. So most women don’t have a child until their in their late 30’s or forties and by then it’s either too late or it’s very dangerous to have a child. So they end up depressed because they chose their job over having children and/or getting married.
Being a slut is not something to take pride in. No one (man or women) should take pride in sleeping with tons of people. It’s disgusting. When you sleep around you are sharing yourself with lots people. You cannot just give these intimate moments to any old Joe-schmo. The gift of sex is to be shared with the person you marry and no one else. Otherwise when you get married the special moment isn’t special. And you probably have an STD. Walking around scantily clad will not stop rape. Yes, I’m talking about the slut walk. Something that should not have ever happened. Walking around topless for everyone to see you is only going to tell people the message that you don’t value yourself and that you are the kind of person who thinks that that behavior is ok. It is not ok to be a slut.
I am certainly not one for victim blaming. If someone gets raped then it is the rapist who is at fault and no one else. At the same time the women who gets raped needs to understand that you should not go out half-dressed, drunk out of your mind and hang around a sleazy bar especially if you’re alone. That’s not victim blaming that’s called having common sense.
Women in Media
Feminists say that all sorts of media sexualize women. They aren’t wrong. A lot of media does sexualize women. This I think, has more to do with the fact that the media loves to sensationalize everything. Sex sells and that’s basic marketing. Also does the media not also sexualize men? Does the media not have huge, ripped shirtless guys everywhere? Isn’t feminism about equality? So shouldn’t feminists also be fighting against the sexualization of men in the media?
I’ll bring body image into this too; It keeps changing. Way back when, it was popular for women to be overweight, that meant that you could afford food, that you were so wealthy that you could afford an abundance of food. It was popular for women to be stick thin as well, like in the nineties. Here’s what I’ll say about this. Parents: You control what your child sees, you help to shape the way that your child thinks. If you don’t want your child to idolize what they see on TV then turn the channel or better yet turn the TV off. Instill some confidence and pride in your kid. These days Hollywood idolizes healthy bodies. Bony figures these days are seen as unhealthy. If you’re an adult you can’t allow the media to tell you what you should look like. You should just do your best to be healthy and adopt healthy practices. You have a mind of your own, remember that. Plus shouldn’t feminists also concern themselves about what men think of their bodies? Shouldn’t feminists be upset with Calvin Klein ads that feature buff, glistening handsome men?
Also I want to just add that as a child I didn’t care about the standards of beauty that I saw on the screen. That is the way that a child should think. I wasn’t concerned with how thin I was; I just wanted to play and have fun.
Ok, I think I’ve covered most of the main points. I don’t want equality; I want to be treated like a lady. When I’m on a date I expect the man to pay, I expect the man to hold the door open for me, I expect a man to speak gently to me; not in a patronizing way obviously. But I don’t want my boyfriend to speak to me the same way he does with his guy friends. Now I’m not saying I’m special. I’m not perfect, I’m not Elizabeth Taylor but, I’m a woman. I believe in the traditional, Biblical definition of what a godly woman should be. I’m not saying it’s not difficult, cause it is. We unfortunately were born into sin so yes we’ll struggle. As you grow in Christ things get better, they always do. I just really hate that feminism has taken such strides to take women off of the pedestal that we were originally placed upon. A woman’s purpose is to give birth and help the man unless God specifically has a special plan for you. That is my stance on feminism.
Thank you for reading,